The women of my family, young and old are sharing their thoughts on leadership, love, relationships, growing up and motherhood. We are joined by Lucia and Sophia Flynn, Kerri and Vanessa Sulminski and Erin, Danya and Eiryanna Gachuma to celebrate the past year and ring in the New Year with a fun, touching and humorous episode. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did!
Describe your daughter to me.
You are raising a son and a daughter. Are there any considerations you have for your daughter that you don’t have for your son?
What are the challenges you’ve faced as the mother of a daughter?
What are your thoughts on raising your daughter to be a leader?
What do you wish for your daughter?
What wisdom would you pass on to other moms who are pregnant with a girl?
How would you describe yourself?
Describe your mom to me.
What do you like about being a girl?
What does it mean to you to be a leader?
What are you looking forward to when you grow up?
If you could change anything about the world what would you change?
Gayle Brown is the co-owner of Cold Hollow Cider Mill in Waterbury, Vermont. She has 15 years of experience running the family business with her husband Paul. The mill is a popular tourist destination that welcomes more than 350,000 visitors a year. She has a bachelor's degree in Geology from the University of Vermont, where she was also the captain of the 1979 ski team.
When Gayle’s children were young, their bookkeeper got angry after she had simply asked for a statement. Gayle realized that the bookkeeper was manipulating her and her husband against each other. She did not want this to hurt her marriage and ended up pushing back her instinct that something felt ‘off’. Gayle remembers realizing how much manipulation took place across the years, because she was scared of losing the bookkeeper as an employee, which would have led to controversy in the business.
Gayle had taken a class with successful local business leaders and she might not have had any fancy letters after her name, but realized what she had to say was just as important. Gayle and her husband did not have to run their business any other way than they intended to.
Gayle likes to lead by example. She and her husband are both very hands on at the cider mill, so they can set the example. Gayle also makes sure to always give someone 5-10 minutes of face-to-face time or phone calls, if there is no way to meet in person.
Gayle is excited about their hard cider project and she describes her taste profile process. She would also like to create a new taste profile with bittersweet fruit from Great Britain. They are currently working with growers to figure out what is the best fruit to grow there for cider, to help with the shortage.
Gayle takes 3-5 minutes a day to allow her brain to quiet the noise. She has so many things up in the air at once that it helps to have the quite for a few minutes.
Gayle would tell herself that if you want something in your heart enough, and your heart and brain are connected – it’s okay if you don’t have a fancy degree – don’t let it affect what you want to go after.
“Our thoughts are magnets.”
Laura Roeder is the founder of Edgar, a new social media automation tool designed to prevent updates from going to waste. Laura began her entrepreneurial journey at the age of 22, when she quit a design job and decided to launch her first business. Since then, she founded B-School with Marie Forleo, has run successful courses of her own such as Creating Fame and Social Media Marketer; and she was named a Top 100 Entrepreneur under 30, in America. Edgar was created out of a need Laura had in her own business to more effectively manage social media – and so in 2014, Laura pivoted her business to dive into the SaaS world. Since launching in mid-2014, Edgar has hit over $150,000 in monthly recurring revenue, all the while bootstrapping the entire way. More than 3,000 customers are now using Edgar to help manage their social media.
Laura always felt self-conscious, because she looked too young. She would go to various chamber of commerce events where she did not typically meet anyone close to her own age. Laura always felt like she stuck out. She attended a speed-coaching program at a conference where the coach laid into her and picked her apart – she needed to change her clothes and her voice. Eventually, Laura realized she had lived through her biggest fear and was not changed by it; she had survived.
When Laura first moved to LA, she was doing social media consulting and helped her friend – an actor on Heroes – create a presence on social media. She walked home after a brainstorming meeting, realizing she didn’t fit into the mold she had created for that route.
Laura leads by giving ownership and letting her team truly own their projects. Most people start out by delegating but you’re still doing a lot. The way Laura leads, she has someone in charge of Customer Service and that person gets to make all the calls for their domain.
Laura is excited about Edgar, which launched a year ago. Edgar has grown super fast and they are now hiring a bunch of people. Meetedgar.com is a new approach to social media that handles your content differently than anything else out there.
Using a quarterly survey to ask, what should we stop doing, what should we keep doing, and what should we start doing allows employees to share their opinions on an ongoing systems.
Focusing more time on the things she enjoys; bringing more value to her business.
"How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives." ~ Annie Dillard
Dr. Carri Drzyzga (Driz’ ga) is world-renowned as ‘The Functional Medicine Doc’– the go-to expert on finding the root causes of health problems so you can feel normal again. She is a chiropractor and naturopathic doctor, and host of the popular podcast, The Functional Medicine Radio Show with Dr. Carri.
Once Dr. Carri had rebuilt her private practice, she knew she had to write a book to get her name out there. That is when the stress set in and fear over the thought of the possibilities became paralyzing. She got on a Mastermind call and laid out all of her feelings. Dr. Carri’s group assured her it was completely normal, and told her to write one paragraph at a time. Afterward, nothing could hold her back!
It was December, and Dr. Carri realized she was holding herself back and letting her excuses drag her down. She had a 3am realization that she was all-talk and no action, and felt she had to make changes right away.
Dr. Carri’s leadership style is still a work in progress. She tries to lead in a way that she would appreciate as a patient. Dr. Carri listens and reads between the lines and leads her team members the same way.
Dr. Carri has a new course that just came out, called Entrepreneurial Fatigue: How to Fill Your Brain and Body for Entrepreneurial Success, an at-home program designed to help the brain and body while building your business.
Dr. Carri makes sure to look her team in the eye and to thank them personally. Simply providing those two words, “Thank you”, it means so much to them.
Dr. Carri would tell her younger self to find a mentor and ask for help. “It’s ok to ask for help; people want to help you.”
“Discovery is seeing what everybody else has seen, and thinking what nobody else has thought.” - Albert Szent-Gyorgyi
Emi Kirschner has helped successful, joy driven executives and entrepreneurs take the leap into the healthy lifestyle they desire. As a board certified Holistic Health Coach (CHHC), she unlocks the “Why” that keeps them stuck in stress filled lives and unhealthy eating habits. Emi’s compassionate, innovative, and fun approach to coaching will harness your inner energy and transform your life.
Right out of college, Emi took a job without any thought or negotiation. Soon after, she turned down a second job offer because she thought simply having a job was the goal. Looking back, she realizes she should have negotiated with her first employer, and at least considered the path that the other job could have brought.
Emi had her wake up call when she decided to get a divorce, and came to terms with doing things that benefit her. During marriage counseling, they reached a point where change was not happening and a decision had to be made. It was the right call for her and her children to make that healthy change, and it was something that allowed her to parent the way she wanted to.
Emi views herself as a mentor and a teacher. No matter who it is, she will take the time to talk to them and offer suggestions to help get to the next step. Emi believes we need more uplifting and support to help each other in this world.
Emi has a 4 Module e-course called French Fries to Foodies, launching in January. She got tired of negotiating and bargaining with her picky eaters, until she decided she was done. She created this program around that and strategies she has used.
Emi believes in the importance of meditating, centering and grounding. She is always open to new systems, techniques, and ways of doing things. Emi always tries to gain by learning from others.
“Just do it.” Emi thinks about everything a lot, so she would tell her younger self just to do it. If you have good intention, it will all work out.
“It's All Good!”
“The Point of Life is Happiness” - Dali Lama
Makeda Ricketts founded PinkThink, an education technology company, in 2013. PinkThink is an interest-oriented and peer-supported web and mobile platform that makes (S)cience, (T)echnology, (E)ngineering, and (M)ath education powerful, relevant, and engaging for girls. PinkThink has won numerous awards, and Makeda was recently named Maker of the Year by the International Alley Awards. On a personal note, Makeda has a passion for education and has taught in Ethiopia and Harlem, New York. Makeda graduated from Wellesley College, with a degree in Political Science and Economics. She is currently an MBA candidate at Chicago Booth, with a concentration in Entrepreneurship.
Makeda grew up around people with big voices, so she struggled to find her own voice and her own space while growing up. When Makeda got her first job, she was so excited to be picked for the position that she settled for the salary they offered her, even though her father had taught her not to do that.
Makeda attended Wellesley College - an all women college - and she found it very empowering. A genuine sisterhood at the College allowed students to speak up and have a voice. It was an environment where women valued women and pushed each other in a healthy way. There was no room for backstabbing or catty attitude, so the community spirit was engrained in them. This environment has shaped how Makeda has lived her life.
Makeda has had to get more forceful in her leadership. Her approach to life has always been to ‘live and let live’. Makeda found herself giving people space to grow, learn, and do; then bringing them in at the end to see what they need. Well, that had to change so she has begun leading with conviction and remaining the ‘calm in the storm’.
Makeda is excited about PinkThink’s new product, cStyle Bracelets that are codeable and wearable, for girls. The bracelet teaches girls how to code in a stylish way, which they can control.
Makeda believes in leading by example. Be the best person on your team and others will want to follow in your steps. You really need to have your leadership face and be the calm, steady leader.
Makeda would tell her younger self she would be fine. Just keep going because you can.
“Listen to the mustn’ts. Listen to the don’ts. Listen to the never-haves. Listen to the wont’s. Listen to me child. Anything can happen; anything can be.”
Hey everyone and welcome to this 6th bonus episode!! How have you been?
I’m going to start off with some exciting news for Women Taking the lead, I’m going to thank my reviewers, highlight a member of our community and then I’m going to dive into the topic for this week – It Starts with You.
Okay, so some background – I belong to a community of podcasters called Podcast Paradise. There are currently has about 2300 members. I found out this week that Women Taking the Lead was nominated for a Podcaster Paradise award for “Best Interview-Based Podcast. I was blown away and incredibly honored and I wanted to be sure to thank you for listening and making this podcast so popular. You inspire and motivate me to improve as an interviewer to provide the best content for you.
So Yay us!
At this time I feel it the right time to start bringing on sponsors for the podcast. I want to be more creative with the podcast and try out some new things but that’s going to take more support and more support is going to take funding. If you’d like to be a sponsor of Women Taking the Lead shoot me an email. I’m at Jodi@womentakingthelead.com. More to come on that!
First let me say I am so appreciative to those of you who have left me a rating and review on iTunes. Each rating and review, each new person who subscribes to the podcast and downloads previous episodes, they make the podcast more visible in iTunes and thus easier for those like you to find it so THANK YOU.
I wanted to share some of the ratings and reviews I’ve received recently:
Eddie Donato – “A fantastic podcast for inspiring you to break free and have a go at doing something that makes you want to jump out of bed each morning. This is why I love podcasts - I can feed my brain positive shows like this that will make a difference in my life!”
Alex B-P – “Jodi does an incredible job at creating a show with tangible takeaways and compelling insights. She asks great questions and charts a unique path with her shows. If you feel that it’s time to step up and take the leading role in your life. Needed conversation. Excited to see this continue.”
If you haven’t already, I would be honored if you would go to iTunes to leave a rating and review, and next time I’ll give a shout out to you.
And if you have already left a review, thank you, thank you, thank you!!
For the longest time, I've turned to complaining --- because I didn't know any other way to release that energy pent up by being frustrated about an outcome (or behaviour of certain people). Now that I've realised that there is always a way to channel that energy in a positive way.
The main frustration that helped me put in a lot of energy in [this] project was that there are a lot of people that think that behaving like a jerk (or worse bullying others) is acceptable behaviour. But because I had come across one of Simon Sinek's talks --- I realised that one way I could help was finding ways to encourage others (that these people are likely feeling disconnected). And isn't life more fun when you do it with others? So, I created this project to bring in people who are similarly frustrated about the same things as me --- and want to do something about it.
The best place to find all about the 10,000 Notes of Encouragement project is through the official page gofundme.com/10knotes) and there will be a link to learn more about me.
~ Leigh (Lay) Lim
Do you have a project that inspires and is making the world a better place? Email me Jodi@womentakingthelead.com and let me know what you have going on. I’d love to share some of these projects in my newsletter, on social media and perhaps in a future bonus episode.
When I was interviewing Alexandra Black-Paulick of the Positive Impact podcast in episode 77 she hit on a theme that I love and it was summed up in the quote she shared from Mahatma Gandhi, “be the change you’d like to see in the world.”
What this quote is saying is it all starts with you. This is something I often talk about with my clients.
If you want to have more peace in your life you need to take on being peaceful. If you want people in your life to be more considerate you need to practice being outrageously considerate.
I was laughing with a couple of women in my BNI chapter when we gathered recently for a holiday partly. We all shared personal examples of how we on occasion do the opposite of this.
For instance, it drives me crazy when other people are being judgmental. But it only drives me crazy because I’m judging them for being judgmental. Have you ever found yourself doing this?
It can look like getting angry at people who are easy to anger, being intolerant of intolerance, gossiping about people who gossip, or complaining about people who complain. The list goes on…
Let’s all laugh at ourselves and our humanity. Let’s take a breath. And now let’s commit to practice being what we’d like to see in the world. It starts with us.
What would you like to see in the world? It all starts with you.
That’s it from me for now.
If there are any topics in particular you would like me to cover you can shoot me an email, Jodi@womentakingthelead.com or send a message through the website or any social media platform. I am a click away.
Have a great week and here’s To Your Success!
Dr. Christine Maguire earned her undergraduate degree in Psychology from Providence College, and her Doctor of Chiropractic (D.C.) degree from Logan College of Chiropractic in St. Louis, MO. She is also a Certified Chiropractic Wellness Practitioner (C.C.W.P.). Dr. Maguire is the author of HOPE 30 Tips to Overcome Cancer Naturally, and a contributor to the Chicken Soup for the Chiropractic Soul, where she highlights a patient’s story. A long-time speaker at the Cancer Community Center and with twenty years of practice, she is in her dream job at Scarborough Family Chiropractic where she enjoys adjusting people of all ages, especially children; allowing them to experience the many health benefits of chiropractic care.
After waking up with debilitating back pain as a teen, doctors told Christine that she would probably never play sports again. Losing her friends and team aspect was difficult for her. She actually believed she would never play again and felt sorry for herself.
At each job, Christine found herself tolerating different things - for longer than she should have - before moving on to other jobs. Once she realized this was happening again at her last job, she started visualizing what she really wanted to do. Christine got the perfect opportunity, which she has found to be her dream job as she is helping more people than ever.
Christine leads by making closer relationships with people. She likes to give people hope and encouragement and takes the time to get to know them, whether it is an employee or a client.
Currently, Christine is excited about her book HOPE 30 Tips to Overcome Cancer Naturally, which has an easy read resource to help people heal.
Daily affirmations set the tone for Christine’s day, and for the future.
Christine believes that setting goals is powerful for achieving success in your personal or professional life.
“Everything happens for a reason.”
Alexandra Black-Paulick is a business junkie at heart. Formerly working for nonprofits, she transitioned to marketing. Still feeling the pull of the nonprofit mentality, she stumbled into the world of social entrepreneurs. Inspired by individuals creating meaningful change in the world, she started the Positive Impact Podcast. This was the perfect blend of her nonprofit background, love for business and marketing outlets.
This new show elevates the work of movers, shakers and change makers creating a positive impact on the world, inspiring individuals like you and me to make our positive mark.
Alexandra and her husband relocated and were unfamiliar with their surroundings and didn’t know anyone in their area. She got a job at a nonprofit, the pay was terrible and leaving it was the hardest thing she has ever done because of her loyalty.
Alexandra's husband was listening to Zig Ziglar books in the car, and he sat her down and asked how she was going to impact lives. She struggled while mulling over that question.
Alexandra strives to model her leadership after her mentor. Her mentor gave her undivided attention during meetings and it was just an extra step to say, “I am focusing on you.”
Alexandra is holding a Virtual Conference in January 18-22 on Blab with Corps alumni who have moved on and become impactful change makers.
Alexandria uses Love Languages in her leadership. Basically, it’s a test to define how people around you perceive love. It empowers her to know how people like to receive feedback so she can implement the proper delivery.
Looking back, Alexandra’s favorite memories were the moments she was present and enjoying her life. She would focus more on those moments and be open to possibilities
“Be the change you wish to see in the world.” ~ Gandhi
Lee Caraher started Double Forte in 2002 as a new kind of communications firm designed to provide the best service in the business. Previously EVP at Weber Shandwick, president and founder of Red Whistle, and VP of SEGA, Caraher has managed multiple offices and hundreds of people of all ages, and was named in the 40 under 40 by industry publication PRWEEK. She serves on the boards of KQED Public Media and Grace Cathedral, and is a member of Entrepreneurs Only. Caraher holds a BA in medieval history from Carleton College, which she finds useful every day. She lives with her husband and two sons on the San Francisco Peninsula.
When Lee worked and lived in LA, she didn’t know anyone. She worked in a place that was demeaning. Though she won many awards through them, the people she worked for diminished a lot of her work. Lee saw a lot of opportunities but everything was being second guessed.
Her most recent wake up call was when Lee as sick a few years ago and kept working through it to the point she needed surgery. During her time off, she trusted her team to handle everything. After 3 weeks, she was feeling better but when she saw herself in the mirror, it became evident that she was a mess! She realized then that she had to rearrange her life.
Lee would describe her leadership style as enthusiastically encouraging. She doesn’t feel the need to check everyone’s work; she trusts the people she hires. Her purpose is to help good people do great things.
Taking care of herself makes her a better leader. Lee makes sure to move around, stay hydrated and get enough sleep.
Don’t pay attention to what people say about you.
“And will you succeed? Yes, you will indeed.” –Dr. Seuss
Robyn Barnes lives in North Yarmouth, Maine, with her husband and two children, Nicholas who is 23 and Alexandra who is 18 and a freshman in college. Since returning to Maine in 1989, Robyn has managed and operated her own businesses, which allowed her to raise her children and work at the same time. Her latest adventure with co-owner Barb Brown is Carpe Diem, a wine room located in Yarmouth, Maine.
Robyn got a job at a law firm and expected to go in and take charge, but she realized that was not the case. The value of her contributions was not getting her anywhere. Robyn ended up staying at the law firm much longer than she should have. She feels like she lost a piece of herself from doing that job.
When Robyn had her first son, she had a wakeup call. She had always taken the traditional 9-5 jobs as long as they gave her a paycheck. When her son was born, she decided she wanted it all, and she knew that she could have it all. When she got pregnant, she wanted to work to fulfill her own needs, rather that everyone else's. Robyn definitely had to make sacrifices to make it work. She would stay up working until 2am and on weekends when things had to get done, to make sure her kids could stay home.
Robyn calls herself an extrovert and says she has a type A personality. She believes there are leaders and followers, and we need both. Robyn is a leader with an evolving leadership style.
Event planning has Robyn feeling really excited right now. Robyn loves being able to plan and bring joy to events, and she appreciates the opportunity for financial gain that is tied in with doing that job.
Listening makes Robyn a better leader. It’s been more obvious to her as she gets older. Taking the time to allow someone to open up brings another piece of importance to her leadership practice.
The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom by Don Miguel Ruiz
If Robyn could tell her younger self anything, it would be not to take it all so seriously.
“Never dull your sparkle.”
Dave Crenshaw is a master at helping business-owners triumph over chaos. He has appeared in Time magazine, FastCompany, USA Today, and the BBC News. His first book titled The Myth of Multitasking: How ‘Doing It All’ Gets Nothing Done, has been published in six languages and is a best seller in the time-management category. His latest book, The Focused Business: How Entrepreneurs Can Triumph Over Chaos, is also a best seller in the small business category. As an author, speaker, and business coach, Dave has transformed thousands of businesses worldwide.
A Women Who Has Influenced Your Life
Dave shares how two women of the same name have influenced his life. His wife, Katherine, is an incredible leader. Dave admires her for her ability to get things done, with the gift of making people feel warm and welcomed in the process. She has a way of making everyone feel comfortable being themselves, and that has had the biggest impact on Dave’s life.
The second Catherine is the founder of Defy Ventures, which aims to reform the prison system. Dave is inspired by how she always sees the best in everyone. No one wants to hire ex-convicts, so by teaching them about entrepreneurship, they are given the opportunity to take control of their own destiny.
What He Sees That Holds Women Back
Dave believes women fall victim to over-commitment, and the “busy badge”. He believes women have thoughts such as: “I am going to do everything; I should be able to do everything because I am strong.” He acknowledges that women are strong, but with only 24 hours in a day, time can be a limiting factor. He sees a lot of people who have taken on the belief that ‘busy equals success’. According to Dave, busy is not success; results are success.
What He Has Learned from Women
Dave has learned that—especially with women—it’s not just about making money, it’s about transforming the world. Angy Ford, who takes pride in transforming daycare, has taught him something very important: the finish line. Everyone starts their day out not knowing where it’s going to end. Just like in a race, the finish line defines where you are going to stop and allows you to better map out your day.
The Necessary Changes
Dave has seen a lot of women feeling burnt out. He believes that you can do everything and that you are capable, but not all at once. It’s important to recognize your limits and make choices accordingly. When you continually say yes, you are chipping away at all of the yesses you said previously. Dave shares that you can go into debt with time, but then you have to pay it back with interest.
“Conditioning is more powerful than discipline.”
Dave’s leadership practice revolves around conditioning. He makes sure to clear his ‘physical inbox’ once a week, and ensures to tackle his unresolved points.
Angie Fisher founded and created Coaching Success Systems in 2011 as a way to provide busy business owners with the full range of resources they need to accomplish their goals. What began as a part-time position became a full-time, thriving business by 2012, providing copywriting, graphic design, administrative and marketing assistance, and more, to several successful coaching entrepreneurs. As a mother of three children and an entrepreneur, Angie understands the importance of providing solutions that will help you reduce stress, grow your personal wealth, decrease overwhelm, stabilize your business during hectic times and find more free time to do what you enjoy.
Right before she hired her first team member in 2011, she took advice from mentors to create packages. The packages ended up being a disaster and didn’t fit in her. She figured out you have to be careful when you have coaches and trust blindly.
Her goal was to grow her business while working her other job. She found herself still working long hours after leaving her other job and needed to pull back. At a networking meeting, she realized she needed to build a team.
Leading by example means respect, communication and taking accountability. She also practiced this in her life, not just work. Having an attitude of “we’re all in this together”.
She is working with a new coach and is excited about a new point of view. A lot of new changes, new programs and new clients.
Having open communication and meetings with her team. Keeping communication open, and having a project management system. All things come back to communication, and ensuring you have a good flow with everyone in your business.
To listen to her gut. Intuition is huge, and it can drive you in the right direction or keep you from moving forward.
“Walk with the dreamers, the believers, the courageous, the cheerful, the planners, the doers, the successful people with their heads in the clouds and their feet on the ground. Let their spirit ignite a fire within you to leave this world better than when you found it...” - Wilferd Peterson
Lane Kennedy, is a Life Liberator & Business Igniter for go-getting, kick ass women who are ready to think bigger and get noticed! She’s been a serial entrepreneur, turned a startup into a legit business that brought in over a million dollars in sales in less than 18 months. Spun rough sketches of lingerie into a booming business where thousands of garments were being shipped out every year. Gone off the grid to work for a non-profit in Bangkok, creating a program that served to empower women across the country and get them off the streets. She is a proclaimed...foodie, mama, fiction writer, recovering fashion model, biohacking freak and Beatles-lover. She can’t live without... yoga, meditation, prayer, music and cheese. And the longest relationship she’s had is...with her dog, Jackson, 13 years and counting!
An investor told Lane that he didn’t want to hear her strategy on how to bring in money and how to be ethical n his company. She stared at him and sat down. She realized that she had become a statistic. Lane was shocked, as had heard about this but never actually experienced it. She lost her confidence in that moment.
Lane's wake up call ended up in her taking an exit from the lingerie company. Her eyes were sunken in, she was working 16 hour days and not being present in her life. Lane had to work back into things that kept her grounded and back into her life.
Lane gives her people full power to execute what they’re going to do. She also makes sure not to micromanage.
Lane is excited about her second draft of her book about finding your north star. She is also passionate about upgrading your lifestyle and is working on a project that focuses on that.
Lane uses Slack so she can get out of her inbox and just pay attention to work.
She would tell her younger self to take it slowly.
Game Changer Society: http://thegamechangersociety.com/
Mercy Nthiga likes to say, that growing up in Kenya, she did everything she “should" do. Studied hard in primary school, passed the 8th grade exams that allow a small % of Kenyans to continue to secondary school, became one of the 5% that graduated secondary school to attend university. Completing university put her in the top few percent of Kenyans. For all that, facing 60% unemployment, it still took years to find work.
That’s when she determined to find a better way for herself, and her country. She came to Houston, and scrambled through more to become a radiological technologist. Mercy has started a business to focus on genuine education of children – which Mercy perceives as essential for kids in America and Kenya. Her business is Entertain to Educate My Child . The business is built on the realization that our children are our greatest responsibility. The mission is to maximize the time parents spend with kids as opportunities for education, and to form a community where parents support each other in our greatest calling on this planet.
Mercy struggled through school, but made it a goal to finish school and go to college. She attended college in Houston and still struggled to find work. At a job that she held for 4 years, she struggled with tardiness as her daughter had to be dropped off at school before she went to work. This had not been favored, but was tolerated by management at the time. Once management changed, she was forced to choose between her job and getting daycare for her child.
Mercy realized that once people are bored, they tune out. She tries to make things fun, jovial and entertaining with her work.
Mercy is really enjoying Periscope. She has been doing 10-minute daily tip sessions on Periscope and has loved the interaction.
Thinking of who she is serving, Mercy tries looking from their point of view to help the situation.
Mercy believes we become who we are because of our past, but she would tell herself not to be so willing to fit in with society. Nice girls don’t make history, so why not ruffle some feathers.
“If you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree it will live its live thinking it is stupid.” -Albert Einstein
Dr. Ellen Braaten is associate director of The Clay Center for Young Healthy Minds at Massachusetts General Hospital (MGH), director of the Learning and Emotional Assessment Program at MGH, and an assistant professor of psychology at Harvard Medical School. She earned her Ph.D. in psychology from Colorado State University, has published four books, and is an educational leader and advocate for mental health.
Ellen was asked to start a new program to assess children with a wide variety of differences. She didn’t take on the role of a leader like she should have; she didn’t think of herself first.
Ellen tries to hire good people and let them do their best. She gives them freedom and confidence to do a good job.
Ellen is writing multiple books with different partners right now and is feeling very inspired and motivated.
Ellen leads with empathy. It helps her understand where people are coming from. It can be an Achilles heel but it’s also very powerful. Looking at a problem through their eyes can be helpful in all partnerships.
Ellen would tell her younger self: don’t worry, don’t hurry. Your career path is much longer than you think it is.
“Bloom where you are planted” ~ Ellen Braaten
The Clay Center for Young Healthy Minds at Mass General Hospital: www.mghclaycenter.org
Ellen’s handle: @ellenbraaten
Laurie Lachance was named President of Thomas College in 2012. She is the first woman and to lead the College in its 120 year history. Before coming to Thomas, Laurie served as the Maine State Economist and is an author and speaker on the economy, leadership and education. Laurie holds an undergraduate degree from Bowdoin College, an MBA from Thomas College.
As a female in a predominantly male field, and a predominantly male college, Laurie was used to being the only female. She was always questioning herself, wondering if she could really do it. Once Laurie was working for the college, she still found herself questioning her actions. Until the board asked her why she couldn’t just do it, why she was playing small.
Laurie’s leadership style is collaborative. She really likes to get the insights of the people around her to come up with the best solution. It may look like it’s a sign of weakness to others, but it’s not. Laurie believes in getting the best ideas out on the table so you can move forward in the best direction.
Laurie is excited about her new Center for Innovation in Education. This new program will add teaching and learning in a proficiency level instead of age based learning and it will integrate technology into learning. This new center will also integrate the arts into curriculum, taking the country from STEM to STEAM. Laurie is hoping to transform how teachers teach in the future.
Laurie starts each day with inspirational message and ends each day writing 5 things in her gratitude journal.
Laurie would tell her younger self to focus on balance a lot earlier in life; try not to sweat it, don’t throw yourself into your work fully until you hit the wall. It’s a lot harder to come back from the wall.
“Set a goal so big that you can’t achieve it until you grow into a person who can.” - Unknown
Nancy Marshall started her PR firm 25 years ago. She believes in the power of old-fashioned relationship building combined with the use of technology, such as social media, email, and the web. She holds a BA from Colby College and an MBA from Thomas College. She is also certified as a Personal Branding Strategist. She has two college-aged sons, and she enjoys supporting them and their friends in their athletic and academic pursuits.
While Nancy was in her mid twenties and working at a ski resort, she had an injury after surgery from pushing herself too much too soon. As she lay crumpled on the floor, she was told she would never move up as a woman.
Nancy was headed on a fitness trip and broke her ankle, but didn’t want to accept it. She desperately wanted to go on the trip, and hoped she could make it through. After another fall, she ended up realizing she wasn’t taking care of herself.
“Enthusiastic” sums up Nancy’s leadership style in one word. Nancy wants her people to know that she supports them enthusiastically and that they have a piece of her business that they can each grow.
Nancy is thrilled about her new audio book that will be on Audible soon. She was surprised how much she loved recording it and plans to do that with other books as well.
Nancy participates in a national network of agencies that meets often. Networking with others inspires her and ensures that she is keeping up with the latest business trends.
Nancy wishes she had taken care of her own needs: taking time off when she needed it and cutting herself some slack.
“Our Deepest fear is not that we are inadequate; our deepest fear it is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant gorgeous talented and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn’t serve the world. There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people will not feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine as children do. We are born to make the manifest, the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some us of it’s in all of us. As we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give others permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fears, our presence automatically liberates others.”
– Maryann Williamson
Sara Speicher, a wife and a mom of two little ones, helps women entrepreneurs make greater impact, serve their client better. Integrating business consulting and coaching, this international best-selling author’s specialty is helping mom-business owners, who are stuck due to a change in life or shift in business, make more money, have more time and more fun. Sara, who holds an MBA degree and is a former internationally recruited NCAA D-1 basketball player (at 6’1” she still rocks her high heels), and her husband are also avid travelers.
Growing up, Sara was always told not to brag, because no one cares. Well, playing small held her back. Because of the fine line between bragging and using her accomplishments for marketing and credibility, she often sold herself short.
She battled Post Partum Depression, she saw an offer for a health program and it clicked that she needed to start focusing on her health and her family. It came down to feeling bad for herself or doing something about it, so she chose to make changes.
Sara has a combination of different leadership types. She always puts her people first, and believes heavily in leading by example. She is always open about making changes with her leadership and parenting.
Sara is excited to give another look at her business, and having more time to spend with the girls.
Sara relies on trusting her gut as a leader.
Sara would tell herself to stop thinking and start doing.
“One dream could change your life.”
Sheena Yap Chan is a blogger and speaker whose sole purpose, drive and passion is to help women live a better life through entrepreneurship. She continues to inspire women through her blog; by showing marketing and social media tips as well as mindset tricks that will help women take away any blocks that is stopping holding them back from greatness. She also has a podcast helping women building up their self- confidence. It’s called The Tao of Self Confidence.
Sheena was working at an office, and wanted to move on to a better job with higher pay. She shared this with a coworker and he told her she was already overpaid as a woman and she wasn’t going to find a better job, that she should just be happy where she was. Sheena believed him and stayed at that job for an additional ten years.
After her break-up with an ex, Sheena was feeling pretty out of it. She joined a woman’s support group and through their support and activities, she was able to heal and see her true potential.
Sheena leads by being the example. She believes in walking side-by-side with who you are leading. If Sheena shows that she can do it, than others will follow.
Sheena is excited about working more on her brand new podcast.
Sheena believes in celebrating every little thing you were able to accomplish each day. When you celebrate all of your successes, you will attract more success.
The Miracle Morning, by Hal Elrod
If Sheena could tell her younger self anything, it would be to trust yourself more. She would ensure herself that the decisions she was making are going to a right direction. The self-sabotage us woman subconsciously practice isn’t helping us.
“Behind every successful woman, is herself.”
Director of a training institute and founder of several training businesses, Becca has a PhD in clinical psychology and advanced certifications in Love Science. She is a relationship expert and is passionate about helping couples have rock solid relationships, helping men and women understand each other and develop secure attachment. As a Certified Trainer of Emotionally Focused Therapy she trains therapists around the world how have successful couple therapy practices. She is a therapist and sees couples for intensive treatment in Baja California, where she lives.
Becca speaks about having what she thought was a good job, but not having a voice and not feeling empowered. She talks about a time she stood up for herself with a driver and held him to the consequences she had laid out.
Becca explains not settling for being taken advantage of at her workplace anymore so she started her own business.
Evolving is how Becca described her leadership style. She used to just rely solely on herself, but she has evolved and become a collaborative leader.
Becca is most excited about podcasting, Periscope and any new formats of reaching people. She loves to have that connection.
Becca believes in collaboration on her team, so everyone can be creative. She ensures weekly check-ins without over-managing and letting her team do their best.
Love Sense by Sue Johnson
Virtual Freedom by Chris Ducker
Becca would tell her younger self to get help sooner for the hard things, and to ask for it.
“If you can rely on others, you can do everything you dream” ~ Dr. Rebecca Jorgensen
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Cathi is an internationally acclaimed expert in the ancient art of Feng Shui. She has 20+ years’ experience consulting and teaching and has worked with over 1,000 clients around the globe. Cathi's work has helped clients increase revenue, reduce stress, resolve conflicts, build health and more. She is the host of the Feng Shui Mastery Show podcast.
Cathi believes that often our environments are dictating, they try to convince us we must stay small. She shares the start of her entrepreneurial journey at the age of 8, and tells of her experience looking after cars for fans during matches.
A cancelled job in Japan to mend Cathi’s hip resulted in her wake up call. Cathi learned so much about healing while in traction. She started reading about Zen and Chinese philosophy which resulted in becoming more observant about her surroundings.
Cathi comes from a holistic perspective and believes in taking care of all of the elements. Her leadership style is inclusive, global and involves the five elemental balance.
Cathi is excited about her upcoming projects. She is currently creating a video for her space clearing procedures and offering all-in-one Feng Shui kits.
Communication makes Cathi a better leader. Being honest with herself is a very important role in her communication style.
Secrets of the Millionaire Mind by T. Harv Eker
Cathi would tell her younger self that even if you think you can’t do something, still go and do it. Still take those steps to that vision, no matter how much you feel you can’t do it.
“A mathematical journey with geometrical intrigue.”
Michelle Raber is an insurance agent and registered representative with the #1 insurance company in America. She has worked for the same company for 22+ years – starting in Maine and then moving to NY for 6 of her 10 years as a corporate employee in human resources and as a technical specialist. You can take “the girl out of Maine, but you can’t take Maine out of the girl” and after getting married in Scarborough Maine in 2000, moved to the same town in 2001. With the help of a great mentor, she made the decision to leave the Corporate world and open her own agency in Scarborough in 2003. Since opening her business, she has earned many national awards, mentored 4 coworkers to help them open their own businesses or move up within the organization and loves the work she does and the people she works with.
She is happily married to Jeff for 15 years and loves to take their 2 dogs Jack and Bodie on walks on weekends.
Playing Small Moment
Michelle shares her experience being stuck in a situation when a client needed help with something and she wasn’t experienced in what he needed, so she felt stuck.
The Wake Up Call
Michelle read a great book by John Maxwell about working on your strengths. She learned that recognizing her strengths and always striving to learn would lead her to success.
Style of Leadership
Michelle’s leadership style is a collaborative style. She likes to have a vision. So, she sketches out the outline and works with her team to color in the spaces.
What Are You Excited About?
After putting it off for years, Michelle has just taken insurance courses. Now that she has accomplished that huge task, she is going to Hawaii for graduation and to celebrate with her husband.
Book to Develop Leadership
The Slight Edge by Jeff Olsen
What Would You Change?
If Michelle could change anything, she would be kinder to herself.
“You can have everything you want in life if you help other people get what they want.” - Zig Ziglar
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As the founder of Dating with Dignity and with more than 25 years of personal relationship and dating experience, Marni Battista has dated, was married for 17 years, divorced, and then successfully dated again (and married!) in the 21st century. Marni is a certified professional Dating and Relationship Coach and Expert, writer, and nationally recognized print and online magazine expert covering dating and relationships. Marni also has a weekly dating/relationship web show (The Dating Den) with over 2.6 million views, and she was named one of the 10 Best Women’s Dating Experts by DatingAdvice.com.
Marni just published her most recent book, Becoming Irresistible, which uncovers the 3 simple steps you need to take to get high-quality, relationship-ready men to pursue you, adore you, and commit to you for life.
02:45 Marni shares what she has been doing since she was last on the show.
06:00 Do men have more confidence than women?
09:13 Marni describes Sexy Alpha Fem
12:52 Jodi and Marni discuss chivalry
16:22 Marni talks about effortlessly becoming irresistible
20:26 Jodi and Marni talk about trust and forgiveness
23:42 Marni explains the Three Keys to Being Irresistible
26:45 Being in relationship without those keys
27:29 Added benefits of learning the keys
29:42 Marni talks about her favorite quote
30:39 How to get in touch with Marni
“Don’t let fear get in the way of your biggest dream, even if your biggest dream is your biggest fear.”- Marni Battista
Dr. Aline Potvin is a naturopathic doctor, teacher, medical muse, and healthcare advocate. Her love of working with patients in her family health practice in Arundel, ME is only surpassed by her deep desire to educate and support families to become independently healthy, and bring that forward into building community.
Playing Small Moment
After medical school, Aline moved back to Maine and worked with mentors to help her in both business and practice and feels that having mentors and coaches is very important. Recently, she found that working with certain coaches and taking their advice was making her lose her focus and vision for the values she wanted to grow in her practice.
The Wake Up Call
Aline was feeling overwhelmed and fatigued, but she was also wanted to help her practice in more ways. She was walking and realized that her title was technically doctor but she really was a teacher. Aline had been conditioned to think how a doctor would normally think, but made changes to the art of her practice to help her patients in a way that really worked for her.
Style of Leadership
Aline believes her best leadership quality is finding other’s natural gifts and helping them contribute to a cause using their gift.
What Are You Excited About?
She has been focusing on her writing lately and finds that using writing as her creative outlet has been very satisfying.
Aline’s best thoughts and reflections come from the water. She tries to incorporate any form of water to keep her balanced, whether it is walking by the lake or relaxing in a bath.
Book to Develop Leadership
The Art of Asking, by Amanda Palmer
What Would You Change?
Aline would tell her younger self not to wait too long to take her power back from wherever it was dispersed. Taking time out each night before bed to take back you power is very therapeutic.
“Unused creativity is not benign.” Brene Brown
Twitter and Periscope handle: @wellnesssaid